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Queer Politics, Trans Conversations, Trans Inclusion

Action Steps for Being a Trans Ally

Action Steps for Being a Trans Ally

by Samuel LurieTransgender Training and Advocacy
added emphasis is my own.

“Transgender” encompasses many different gender presentations and identities. From Male-to-Female and Female-to-Male to Femme Queen, Boi, Trannyfag, Female-born man, Transwoman, Tomboy, Butch, Crossdresser and many more. Many people who may not identify as “transgender” still face discrimination based on their gender expression and for not conforming to traditional gender presentations.

  • Don’t make assumptions about a trans* person’s sexual orientation.

Gender identity is different than sexual orientation. Being gay doesn’t mean you’re trans and being trans doesn’t mean you’re gay. Sexual orientation is about who we’re attracted to. Gender identity is about how we see ourselves. Trans people can identify as gay, straight, bisexual, pansexual or asexual.

  • If you don’t know what pronouns to use, ask. Politely and respectfully.

Then use that pronoun and encourage others to do so also.

  • Confidentiality, Disclosure and “Outing.”

Some trans* people “pass” and some do not. Knowing a trans* person’s status is personal information and up to them to share with others. Gwen Araujo and Brandon Teena were both murdered when others revealed their trans* status. Others routinely lose housing, jobs and friends. Do not casually share this information, or “gossip” about a person you know or think is trans*.

  • Don’t assume what path a transperson is on regarding surgery or hormones.

Affirm the many ways all of us can and do transcend gender boundaries, including the choices some of us make to use medical technology to change our bodies. Some trans people wish to be recognized as their gender of choice without surgery or hormones; some need support and advocacy to get respectful medical care, hormones and/or surgery.

  • Don’t police public restrooms.

Recognize that gender variant people may not match the little signs on the restroom door- or your expectations! Encourage businesses and agencies to have unisex bathrooms, and offer to accompany a trans-person to the bathroom so they are less vulnerable.

  • Don’t just add the “T” without doing work.

“GLBT” is now commonplace to show support for queerness. To be an ally for Transpeople, Gays, Lesbians and Bisexual people need to examine their own gender stereotypes and transphobia and be willing to defend trans* people and celebrate trans* lives.

  • Listen to trans voices.

The best way to be an ally is to listen to trans* people themselves. Check out the sites and books below. Talk to trans* folks in your community. They are the experts on their own lives!

Brochure? Here you go.

Web Resources:
Gender Identity 101: A Transgender Primer, by the late Alexander John
Gender Education and Advocacy
FTM International
IFGE--International Foundation of Gender Education, Waltham, MA
Intersexed Society of North America
Leading Transgender Organizations
PFLAG's Transgender Support Network
Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits, by Loren Cameron
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us, by Kate Bornstein
Honey, Honey, Miss Thang: Being Black, Gay and On the Streets, by Leon E. Pettiway
Transgender Warriors: Making History from Joan of Arc to Rupaul,
and Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink and Blue,  by Leslie Feinberg,
Transgender Care: Recommended Guidelines, Practical Information and Personal Accounts,
Gianna E. Israel and Donald E. Tarver, II, MD
Trans Forming Families: Real Stories about Transgendered Loved Ones, by Mary Boenke
True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism for Families, Friends, Coworkers and Helping Professionals, by Mildred L. Brown

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